Anyone watched "Friends with Money" before?
I was running through some of the Chinese blog posts that I wrote a couple of years ago and came across this one that I really like; I wrote it after watching "Friends with Money". I translated the essence of the blog per below; the original blog post is available after the translated copy.
I was running through some of the Chinese blog posts that I wrote a couple of years ago and came across this one that I really like; I wrote it after watching "Friends with Money". I translated the essence of the blog per below; the original blog post is available after the translated copy.
The movie is about this teacher-turned-cleaner character who started feeling unsure of her future and, strangely of, her friends who had the money. Instead of this character, I rather enjoyed the story about one of her friends.
This friend's life revolved around her husband and she completely lost herself after she was married. There was this scene where she burnt her hand, and her husband was right there when this happened. Instead of asking about her injury, he asked her about something else.
She was obviously angry over his lack of concern. She asked if he seen her getting hurt, and his answer was a resounding yes. While he saw her getting injured, he felt that she should be alright since she did not complain about it. She was an adult, she should be able to express herself if she needed help. Right?
Of course she could.
Her point, like most women, was really to find out if her husband cared enough to ask about her well being.
Man's logic intelligence usually clashes with a woman's emotional intelligence. "1+1" is always "2", it could never be "11" like the way it could be to a woman. No one is right and no one is wrong.
The last scene played out very aptly.
The wife was working in the room when she hurt her foot. Her helper, who was in the other room, shouted across to ask if she was alright.
Her point, like most women, was really to find out if her husband cared enough to ask about her well being.
If you are not hurt beyond the ability to move around, don't make a big deal out of it. If you are indeed hurt, and can fetch a plaster, please be a babe and do that and let me get on with my stuff. This is man.
I am hurt. I am not dead, but can't you come over and take a look. I thought you love me? This is woman.
I am hurt. I am not dead, but can't you come over and take a look. I thought you love me? This is woman.
The last scene played out very aptly.
The wife was working in the room when she hurt her foot. Her helper, who was in the other room, shouted across to ask if she was alright.
At that very moment, the wife finally understood how to move forward with their relationship.
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刚刚看完了一部蛮depressing的电影。故事环绕着四个女主角，四人都有她们的喜与悲。 一人因为找不到那种快乐的感觉而拒绝洗头（够怪吧…）；她觉得洗了还是会脏，那就算了 - 别洗了，等我找到快乐再说。另一个没有什么人生目标，因为她还对已婚的男友念念不忘，从教师变成了清洁女佣（我没排斥清洁女佣，我只是在叙述故事内容）。第三主人翁继承了一大笔遗产，有钱应该没什么忧愁，对吧？别做梦了，是人就有烦恼 － 她和老公都不能好好地处理婚姻和当个称职的父母。最后的这主角，也是我这文章的主题来源，结了婚后，失去了自我，以老公为中心。她搞不懂她与丈夫存在着的是什么关系。
比如有一场戏；她烧伤了手，丈夫看到了但却问她另一件事；对她的伤默默不问。她生气地问丈夫是否看到她受伤了，丈夫说看到了。她便问到：
“那么你为什么不问我还好吗？”
“你既然能这么问，你的伤就应该没什么大问题。你的伤现在很严重吗？”
“我的伤没大碍但是你看到到我受伤了，对吗？"
"是的。"
“那么你为什么不问？”
“因为你明显没事！你这么大的人了，有事不会说吗？”
“我会，但是我只是想知道你是否还关心我。”
丈夫生气地走开了；当时妻子感觉到他们的婚姻没法再维持下去了。
是丈夫过度理性化，还是妻子太过敏感？是丈夫太过漠不关心，还是妻子过度在乎？
夫妻不就是该夫唱妇随或妇唱夫随吗？就算知道事情再小，问候一句也不算过分吧？我当然不鼓励敏感或是无谓地在乎，但是若夫妻间没有那种外人不能参与的关心与照顾，那么不就做朋友好了咯…干嘛要结婚？好玩啊？还是嫌钱多？
戏没给这对夫妻的关系一个明确的交代。故事结尾时，妻子正在房里工作，站了起来却敲到了脚，疼叫了一声。楼下的佣人听到了，问了一声“你还好吗？”。
顿时，妻子愣了一下，似乎领悟了他们夫妻间的关系应该怎么了结。
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